How to build them up without doing long term harm
Praise: We all want out kids to be happy and grow up to be secure well-adjusted adults. Naturally we tend to praise them for how talented, intelligent or pretty they are. Unfortunately, too much of this can have a very dark side with serious long term effects. The highly beneficial alternative is to praise them for how much effort they put into what they do. Long term follow-up studies show how functional intelligence goes up over time in the effort praise group and down in the intelligence and/or talent praise group.